Saturday, January 29, 2011

Without love, arrange divorce.

Arranged marriages are the ting of the past, arranged divorces are the thing of today.

To the extent of my limited knowledge in the subject I think that arranged marriages were practiced everywhere in the world at some point in time.

Though today many cultures have moved away from the traditions of arranges marriages in an attempt to find the life partner based on love and personal preferences, it is figured it to be the better choice.

Though when people get married or move in together, practical problems arise, and compromises need to me made, and eventually one will slide down into the problem of making it fair and balanced, start to arrange who does what and when, this is the first sign of the path to divorce, since at this point the discussion is not about "us" but about "me" vs. "you".

If you really love a person, you should naturally be willing to assist and make life better for that person, this also includes not burdening your loved one unnecessary. If both partners love each other and act accordingly, both will have the other one at their side in time of need, and neither will feel exploited.

If neither acts with love towards each other, but instead the life together is arranged and scheduled, neither will have their parter at their side in time of need, because such times can not be scheduled ahead, both will try to negotiate a better deal for themselves so that they don't feel exploited by the other, and where is the love in that?

When we figure out that not only marrying by love but also living together by love is better than arranging a life together we will observe fewer divorces.

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