Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Being experienced is risky, but you can keep faking it

When a boy begins to shave, he is unexperienced, indecisive, his hand shakes, and he will cut himself. Only when he gets experienced he will become decisive, and will act with certainty, this is when he stoops shaking and hurting himself.

No matter how bad at shaving you are in the beginning, it is not feasible to avoid it, hence you will get better. But there are other situations here in life, when people go around avoiding things they want to do due to this fear and indecisiveness, hence never getting better at it, never getting what they want.

Sometimes it's hard to try something new, but think about if you really want it, and if you do, go for it once, you might get cut, but let it heal and try again, if you still want it. Make sure you don't intensionally cut others in the process, because whatever is useful experience for you, might not be useful for someone else, since people are at different places in life.

An indecisive and uncertain person is a person always in fear of trying something new, and therefore not having the experience to be certain when posed with a decision or a question. More likely to avoid it all together, just sinking deeper into swamp of indecisiveness.

But don't confuse the indecisiveness with the profound "Meh", when person has so much experience he is so wise he sees no difference between the trivial things you might consider of importance, such as which movies is the best one, what tastes better, which car is better e.t.c.

Don't be afraid to take the first step and act on it, guess what is right if you don't know it or can't learn it from other peoples mistakes, if you are wrong you will find out. We are all living in a world of fools, the only difference is that majority are afraid to admit it and show it, and those that do are the only ones who do get wiser. That is, instead of getting wiser, we are trying harder to hide our foolishness, hence everyone around seem increasingly wiser, while in reality only accomplish it by hiding the true self, but also by avoiding doing risky things and getting truly wiser. Hence the disconnect between what is perceived and how it really is just keeps increasing, and it gets increasingly difficult to make the first step, because it seems that everyone around you are flawless.

Hence we find us increasingly disconnected form the world around us, seemingly not fitting in, and generally failing at it, creating the foundation for depression. And also why we have difficulty trusting other people, because we do no know if what we see is truly so or if it only is a mask to deceive us.

But if you can play that game, avoid taking risk, avoiding getting hurt, leaning form mistakes and instead are able to put on the appearance of being experienced, why should you take the hard path?