Saturday, January 29, 2011

Without love, arrange divorce.

Arranged marriages are the ting of the past, arranged divorces are the thing of today.

To the extent of my limited knowledge in the subject I think that arranged marriages were practiced everywhere in the world at some point in time.

Though today many cultures have moved away from the traditions of arranges marriages in an attempt to find the life partner based on love and personal preferences, it is figured it to be the better choice.

Though when people get married or move in together, practical problems arise, and compromises need to me made, and eventually one will slide down into the problem of making it fair and balanced, start to arrange who does what and when, this is the first sign of the path to divorce, since at this point the discussion is not about "us" but about "me" vs. "you".

If you really love a person, you should naturally be willing to assist and make life better for that person, this also includes not burdening your loved one unnecessary. If both partners love each other and act accordingly, both will have the other one at their side in time of need, and neither will feel exploited.

If neither acts with love towards each other, but instead the life together is arranged and scheduled, neither will have their parter at their side in time of need, because such times can not be scheduled ahead, both will try to negotiate a better deal for themselves so that they don't feel exploited by the other, and where is the love in that?

When we figure out that not only marrying by love but also living together by love is better than arranging a life together we will observe fewer divorces.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Умные не запускаются!

Насколько человек умный определяется степени углубления в выбранном им направление!

Например, физик, ботаник, будет выглядеть очень умным среди других академиков так как он проводит большинство своего времени зубря гранит науки, но в социальной среде он будет выглядеть очень глупым не зная что сказать девушке которая ему нравится, так как он учил физику вместо того чтобы разговаривать с людьми и учится общению.

Как не крути, время у людей не безграничное и тратя его на одно мы невольно ограничиваем себя в другом.

Так вот, умный не тот кто ударился в одно направления и знает об этом больше чем все присутствующие, а тот кто знает когда углубления в одном направление начинает вредить другим аспектам жизьни, то есть не запускается.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

I think, therefore I have a problem!

Well the idea is rather simple, if we think and have no problems to think about, thinking quickly becomes unnecessary, hence we find entertainment which either keeps us from thinking or which creates artificial problems for us to solve. Which is also the two types of entertainment we commonly call higher form of entertainment, and lower form of entertainment.

On the other hand when we think usually it involves some problem, if now, even if we only daydream that dream usually is no all perfect but has some problems which we solve or if you fail in your daydreams, that might be a sign of depression perhaps.

It also seems, though I have not seen any studies on the topic, that we are, and historically have been focused on solving one particular problem, where to get more wealth or stuff, hence previous attempts of tackling the problem has been of the form, "do not desire", and to do that one sits in meditation where one does not think at all, hence solves no problems, at least intensionally.

From this we get our eternal greed, where by achieving one goal or getting one thing, we soon start wanting another or thinking about next step, solving next problem, because we do think, we think a lot, an all those thoughts need to be focused on something.

Why do we always think about problems though? Well that could probably be explained in evolutionary terms, since everyone strive to survive and reproduce we often get stuck on hoarding material goods having the evolutionary impulse that having more and piling up will help survival, while in fact in todays society, that often gets people in debt since piling up is not about hunting or gathering anymore, but comes with a price tag attached. Hence people often think about what to get next and how to get it, or if they have no problems with getting it, they worry about their credit card running hot.

The second evolutionary impulse to reproduce, often is in conflict with the first, since we are conditioned with the importance of having a good and well paying job, and buying lots of stuff for ourselves, children often are always seen as a problem, preventing you from buying more stuff for yourself.

Hence we don't only have two problems, how to get more stuff, and how to reproduce, but we also have the third and very difficult problem of how to achieve the one and still not loose the other, and we are all romantic and such today, so third problem is added, not only finding means to reproduce but also doing it with one you love and not by arrangement, and not only that by also with a partner that also loves you.

But that only shows that people do have problems to think about, that is not the same as saying that if people think then they have problems. Let's imagine a counterexample, one person in the world that thinks freely, has no problems, and ye't doesn't create or think about problems. I can't, but lets take Dalai Lama one would think that there is no better example, but even he has a schedule, which he follows, going to different places, teaching people about happiness and other ideas, and is't it the greatest problem of them all, educating the masses?

Well then, from all this there are couple of things one could consider, first of all the problem keeping you sleepless at nights might not be a real problem as such but something you yourself created in order to have something to think about, or that the problem is real but is more of a comfort thing and not necessity hence should not take priority over other stuff, and lastly if it is a real problem that requires real deep though, well then be happy that you are capable of thinking, a cat would never have been able to solve that.

And in order to avoid creating artificial problems for oneself, or to avoid compulsively thinking about some utterly pointless problem, get a hobby, meet people, do something with your creativity, and you might notice that you have less problems.

Basically, spend less time thinking about tomorrow, it is our advantage as humans and does help us to survive but overdoing it also reduces our live to mere survival. And since you can't stop thinking, there is no point in telling someone "stop worrying" but instead one needs to find something to think about, hence the advices above.

Sweden is one of the leading countries when it comes to suicide, it is also a country with good welfare, high social protection and in general rather good standard of living. And I think that having few problems in life, that is enjoying high standard of living creates the problem of what to do with all the spare brainpower not used for solving problems in daily life, and if no one provides a problem people will invent their own, and no one knows how to create such a problem that will occupy your mind for years and maybe for the whole life but yourself.

Hence it the end, everything above can be summarize as one unexplained thought:

Find a way to occupy your mind, or your mind will occupy itself!

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Happy New Year, from east with love!

Allright, final words this year!

On a personal note, this year has been rather good to me, done some projects, met new people, though not everything turned out as I planed or wished, fortunately I have good people around me that helped me to stay on my feet and supported me when some of these projects did't turn out as I planned, and I learned a lot from the experience.

Regarding the blog, well perhaps I got more sloppy, wrote less insightful posts, less well written, still I am rather happy with it, because this is mostly for my own sake, kind of public notebook, and if anyone does find something they consider interesting that's just a bonus, but I really do hope that there are at least some people that got some thoughts of their own like: is that true?, why is it so?, is it then also true that...? or something of that sort, and if so then this blog has accomplished its purpose. I also noticed in the stats that the very few posts I have written in russian are read more often than posts written in english, perhaps I will write more in russian in the future, because it's always fun when people read what I have written, but also is a good exercise for me.

On that note I can say that I had a interesting observation, lately I have met some people from easter europe, and I had question posed to me by my friend, why they have such disregard for time and authority, and I could't give him a satisfying (for me) answer. Though now I think I could give him one which would be:
People from eastern europe do assume the best, but expect the worst, and nothing is impossible. That is have a tendency of failing forward, with immense energy which is rarely observed over here.
That I think does explain the mentality. I hate to make such statements without backing them up with some examples or some logical explanation, but I thought that I would't elaborate any further at this time, perhaps I will do it in the future, but right now I can't do it without being too personal.

I will certainly be back 2011 with more thoughts and I can say it with certainty, because this year started of rather slow, but at the moment I have several thoughts written down as kind of statements, and I will share them as soon as I find time to write them in an human friendly form, that is not just as statements but as an well formed, logically structured thought.

But for now I wish you all an Happy New Year, and wish you all to find happiness in the coming year if you haven't done so already!

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Bloodhound Gang - The Bad Touch

When searching for lyrics, that is researching the topic, I always got this in the beginning:
Ha-Ha! Well now we call this the act of mating
But there are several other very important differences
Between human beings and animals that you should know about
Though in every version i'v herd thus far the song begins with:
I'd appreciate your input
And this is my input:

Even without the first quote, but especially with it, I can't interpret the song, and especially with the music video for the song, in any other way then sarcasm and social criticism. I like the raw and brutal way they demonstrate how wrong this view is. I have only one problem with it:

Peoples world view today is bent backwards to such extent, that they actually interpret the song literally and think that's right and dig it not for the sarcasm, but for how things are or ought to be, and that is just sick.

Why is it sick? Because it validates the claim religious people make, namely that there is no morality without God, and especially without their particular religious text, and it also undermines all arguments by atheists such as Richard Dawkins, that being atheist does not mean one acts like an animal, because let's face it, why stop at sex? Why not kill some guy to get his girlfriend (no the girlfriend has no right to decide, males are stronger), form groups and go around fighting and killing other groups for territorial control and resources, hierarchy within the group e.t.c; just mammals.

And that's the horrible part, too many young (and not so young) understand song like this one, and similar things not as sarcasm but as things are or should be, because they are intelligent, they know about evolution, hence it must be so, nothing but mammals. And until those "intelligent" people understand that being ape descendant does not mean that it is normal to act like an ape, they should at least stop bitching about religion, because they themselves only give reasons for it.

And what makes me really scared, is that I look around me, and I see people listening to this song, I see how they act, what they say, how they react to the song, and I am sure they do not think bout this song as social criticism and sarcasm, and looking at all this I myself can not even be sure the song was intended as such, or if it just was intended to appeal to wide audience.

Don't try to kill religion, it will die of by itself when there is no longer need for it, but for now it is here to stay, and rightfully so because the country is turning into a god damn zoo. Don't like it? Then teach your children something more than how to work and consume!

And this is the most Christmas spirit I could squeeze out of me this year.
Happy birthday Jesus, there is still room for you in this world!
And Marry Christmas to all readers!

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Can you be free and good?

The saying
Freedom implies responsibility!
has lost all meaning today, if it even had one to begin with. You are always responsible for your actions, weather you are free or not.

The difference is in who is holding you responsible, when you are free to do as you wish, the way you act determines who you are, when you are not, the force outside you, state, religion, parents, whatever that prevents you from doing as you wish, determines who you are.

You are not free when you can't act your worst because somebody watches over you, and hence you are not good when somebody forces you to be, but you are free and good, when you can act your worst but don't because it isn't right, and no further reason is needed to be given.

That is, being good because you have to doesn't say anything about you, doing good without reason does.

Hence you can never know wether a person is god when that person always obeys the law, bible, or any other authority.